BEREAVEMENT SUPPORT GROUPS
For anyone, regardless of where you are in your own grief journey, meeting the first Monday of each month 10:00-11:30am at Grace Chapel, 2104 W US Hwy 40, Brazil. For Parents who have lost a child meet the 2nd and 4th Tuesday of each month 7:00-8:30pm at Grace Chapel, 2104 W US Hwy 40, Brazil. If you would like more information about either group, please call 812.446.2206. MOURNER'S BILL OF RIGHTS 1. You have the right to experience your own unique grief. 2. You have the right to talk about your grief. 3. You have the right to feel a multitude of emotions. 4. You have the right to be tolerant of your physical and emotional limits. 5. You have the right to experience "griefbursts." 6. You have the right to make use of ritual. 7. You have the right to embrace your spirituality. 8. You have the right to search for meaning. 9. You have the right to treasure your memories. 10. You have the right to move toward your grief and heal.
We believe that special touches are many times the positive focus of a memorial service or funeral. Afterall, we are gathered to remember and reflect on the person's life, and each one of us has a unique focus to our lives. Whether it may be golfing, fishing, reading, volunteerism, gardening, or whatever. I feel it is our responsibility to find out the main focus and build from that what is important for this particular family.
Memorial folders are a simple, yet direct way to display something unique. This may range from a favorite picture of the deceased on the front, inside or back of the folder, a special family photo, a simple cross, with the words, "Jesus Love You' on the front, a special poem written by a grandchild on the inside; a picture of the church the person was devoted to...the possibilities are endless.
Another touch that I believe to be so special is a pillow that I have made for the family. This pillow is shown to the family during the hour prior to services. The colors of material are coordinated with the clothes of the deceased, the casket color and the flowers. The size is approximately 12" square.
On this pillow are many of the special and unique things the family has shared with me about their loved one. Again, each one is totally one of a kind. Some examples from my own life, a pillow for my dad would be; (the material would be blue, because he has the bluest eyes ever,) he was a hod carrier, so a wheel barrow, bricks, bucket would be included, he loves to look for morel mushrooms, he had at one time, up to 60 goats, (don't ask me why!) but a "billy goat" would be on it, and his children's names would be embroidered, Debbie, Susie, Tommy and Billy, and the name of Martha would be there, she is my step mom, who we are eternally grateful for taking care of him!
Another example would be my little aunt, who collected tea cups from her travels, she was a devoted Christian, loved to make blackberry jelly, so her pillow would be a very feminine fabric, dainty tea cups and saucers in pastel shades, a canning jar with blackberries next to it, a Christian Cross, and the name "Aunt Teenie" (that is a term of endearment for her.) Again the possibilities are endless.